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木偶，对很多人来说并不会陌生，至少人们都知道，它是需要一个人来操控的。木偶的一举一动，完完全全都被人操控和掌握了。它，并没有自由，也没有权利去做任何决定，更别说它有自我了。因为它，只是一个木偶，一个没有生命的木偶。但人，有。人，有生命，当然这也造就了人绝对拥有权力去做任何决定，甚至是拥有自由的。人拥有自由去过着他们自己要的生活，拥有绝对的权力去为自己做任何有关自己人生的决定。

在21世纪的社会里，我往往没想到，原来在我们的生活周遭，还是存在着“木偶”。这些人宛如木偶般的生活，咋看之下，他们跟平常人并没什么分别，但原来他们其实是生活在别人的影子里的。因为影子的一举一动都是跟着人们的动作而产生的，而他们的生活就像是别人在为他们操控那样。他们并没有绝对的自由，当然也没有绝对的权利去做一个决定。今天，就算那个决定是关乎他们一生的，他们也是无能为力的为自己做一次决定！您说，那是可悲的，还是可耻的？

人不同木偶。人有生命，有自由，有自我。做人就应该做回自己，拥有自我。不然的话，试问下，做人还有什么意思呢？如果人生活在这世界上，但又不能做回自己，拥有自我的话，那我们的人生还有什么意义呢？那不是一件很可悲的事吗？当然最重要的还是，人，是有感情的。在感情的世界里，人不应该当木偶，而是应该做回自己。自己的感情就应该由自己来追寻，自己来决定的，而不是别人！

人，千万别做木偶。在感情的世界里，那是更不应该的。其实，在生命的过程中，父母，兄弟，朋友，甚至同事，时不时都会很关心你的，他们往往都会提出自己对某件事情的看法和想法的。这是好的，因为我们有时候也是需要别人的意见来帮助我们解决问题的。但，切记，别成了他们的木偶，因为终究人生还是自己的！切记！切记！最后想告诉大家，其实自己才是人生最佳的主人！

*Picture taken from 光华同学会

Limteh Life, Men, Relationship, Women

“You never try you never know” 这句话在现今的社会里，已成为了很多人的座右铭。人们时不时都会把这句话挂在嘴边。很多事情都说 “You never try you never know”。对。这句话很有意思，也很有作用。当你不确定一件事情的时候，当你不知所措的时候，当你拿不定主意的时候，你可以都用上它。当然，当你想找个借口的时候，你也是可以把它派上用场的，这里我想特别提的就是，感情。

在感情的世界里，任何事情都可以发生。很多时候，当一个人不知道该如何做一项决定时，他们常常都会想起了这么一句话 “You never try you never know”。所以可以相信，在这世界上，真的有人会因为这么一句话而走在一起了。如果结果是好的话，当然就是拍了拖，然后结婚生子，一起过着幸福美满的生活咯。但，如果结果并不是我们想象的那样呢？那问题就出现了。

在感情世界里，很多人常常以为自己可以改变自己，甚至改变对方。在这里，改变自己就是说，让自己对对方有感觉，从欣赏到喜欢，从喜欢到爱，藉着跟对方在一起的时间，慢慢来培养彼此的感情。这没有所谓的对与错，因为那也是感情世界里的其中一个过程。但，如果万一有一天，当你发现你根本就无法真正地投入在这一个感情里面，你无法真正地跟对方培养出一段感情，甚至你开始怀疑自己对对方的感觉的时候，你会怎么做呢？

很多时候，他们都会考虑到一点，“既然在一起那么久时间了，怎么说都有感情了，如果现在放手，会不会有点可惜呢？” 。我想说的是，如果那个感情不是因为爱的话，那何苦再继续下去呢？这样的话，对自己，对对方，都不是一件很好的事，更别说那是公平的，特别对对方更是很不公平的。就算今天让你们都安然无恙的度过了这一关，难保这一个问题不会再日后又出现的。你能给保证说不会再有那样的问题吗？

很多人往往都忘了在 “You never try you never know” 这句话的后面，其实还有这么一句话的 “Once you tried, if it’s not suitable, just let go”。当你所做的一切都已尽力了，而还是觉得不适合的话，其实你心里应该很明白你其实真正要的是什么了。别太自私，当你真的发觉尝试了后还是不适合的话，就应该放手了。牢牢的套着对方，其实对对方是很不公平的。这样也对大家没好处的。更别说为了怕自己做错决定，或是怕自己以后会后悔，怕日后会失去一切，一无所有，而牢牢的抓着对方的手，那真的是很自私的行为了。因为每个人都有绝对的权利去追求自己的幸福的，没有人可以无赖的去阻止或拖延别人去寻找属于他们自己的幸福的。

当然，在感情的世界里，两个人在一起就应该互相谅解，互相迁就，互相尊重，互相爱护，互相关心，互相疼爱，还有很多很多的互相。。。最重要的是，两个人在一起千万不要试着改变对方，因为久而久之，对方就会失去自我了。当对方失去自我的时候，很多问题就会接踵而来了。而且，当初你欣赏，喜欢，甚至爱对方，也是因为对方真实的自己啊，不是吗？学着去接受对方的一切吧。愿所有天下有情人终成眷属。。。努力去追求属于自己的幸福吧！别因为别人的三言两语就抹杀了自己的幸福和未来！因为唯有自己才是最了解自己的人！

Limteh Life, Love, Men, Relationship, Women

Share your smile with your loved ones.

Share your smile with the people around you.

Spread your smile to the world.

A simple smile doesn’t cost anything, but gives more.

Light up your day with a simple smile.

Bring hope to others with your lovely smile.

Make the world more wonderful with your smile.

Well, this project might just only a Fans Club located at Facebook Group under Just for Fun – Fan Clubs category, but I wish to see whether this Project Smiling got any potential or not to develop further more in days to come.

So, please support this project by joining Project Smiling in Faceboo Group. You can upload your smiling photo there. Make your wish through your smiling face. And of course you can aso share your funny video there as the main objective of this project is to share and spread your smile to the world. Always remember, make the world more wonderful with you simple and lovely smile.

Project Smiling Life, Project Smiling, Smile

During this Chinese New Year, my father was asked by one of his friends that visited our house.

“Lu wu facebook boh (You got facebook)?”

Wahh… I never expect that nowadays my father’s friends also played facebook ar?

We took some photos during his friends visited to our house. Then his friend asked my father whether he got facebook or not because he asked my father to take the photos from him through his facebook account.

After his friends leaved, my father asked us whether my brother, my sister and I got facebook account or not? We all said YES! Of course! Then, he ended up creating a facebook account that night too!

Here’s my father’s facebook account.

Now, he can ‘detect’ 3 of us through facebook liao!

Limteh Facebook, Life, New Year

Chinese New Year is just around the corner and I’m pretty sure that every Chinese is quite busy right now. Busy with all the stuffs needed during this festival, preparing this and preparing that. How’s your or your family preparation for these big days?

Most of the Chinese (Erm… I think I will just say most rather than every), they wish to have big fortune or make a lot of money whenever they step into a brand New Year. Most of the time, there will be lots of rules, terms, conditions, or traditions needed to be followed in this very beginning of the year.

This time, Chinese New Year or so-called tiger year falls on 14th of February 2010 which means that is also Valentine’s Day. Hmm… what do you think about that? Will you consider it good? Or bad?

By the way, have you all ever heard about Feng Shui tips for year 2010 given by someone (Actually, I’m not sure who is it, but I just heard that) recently? It said that, “Wear a red shirt or red top, go to the bank and bank in some money to yourself on the 4th of February (as it is the first day of the tiger year) and you will make a lot of money in year 2010! If you ‘work’ on the first day of the year, means the whole year you will be working very hard”.

What do you think about that? Do you believe that? Will you follow what they said on that day?

According to Joey Yap, a Feng Shui and Chinese Astrology Consultant, that Feng Shui tip is ridiculous. Check out the picture below, this is how it would be all around the banks if everyone followed that tip on the 4th of February next Thursday. Hehehe…

*Picture taken from phantomobserver.com

Limteh Chinese Astrology, Feng Shui, Life, New Year