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木偶，对很多人来说并不会陌生，至少人们都知道，它是需要一个人来操控的。木偶的一举一动，完完全全都被人操控和掌握了。它，并没有自由，也没有权利去做任何决定，更别说它有自我了。因为它，只是一个木偶，一个没有生命的木偶。但人，有。人，有生命，当然这也造就了人绝对拥有权力去做任何决定，甚至是拥有自由的。人拥有自由去过着他们自己要的生活，拥有绝对的权力去为自己做任何有关自己人生的决定。

在21世纪的社会里，我往往没想到，原来在我们的生活周遭，还是存在着“木偶”。这些人宛如木偶般的生活，咋看之下，他们跟平常人并没什么分别，但原来他们其实是生活在别人的影子里的。因为影子的一举一动都是跟着人们的动作而产生的，而他们的生活就像是别人在为他们操控那样。他们并没有绝对的自由，当然也没有绝对的权利去做一个决定。今天，就算那个决定是关乎他们一生的，他们也是无能为力的为自己做一次决定！您说，那是可悲的，还是可耻的？

人不同木偶。人有生命，有自由，有自我。做人就应该做回自己，拥有自我。不然的话，试问下，做人还有什么意思呢？如果人生活在这世界上，但又不能做回自己，拥有自我的话，那我们的人生还有什么意义呢？那不是一件很可悲的事吗？当然最重要的还是，人，是有感情的。在感情的世界里，人不应该当木偶，而是应该做回自己。自己的感情就应该由自己来追寻，自己来决定的，而不是别人！

人，千万别做木偶。在感情的世界里，那是更不应该的。其实，在生命的过程中，父母，兄弟，朋友，甚至同事，时不时都会很关心你的，他们往往都会提出自己对某件事情的看法和想法的。这是好的，因为我们有时候也是需要别人的意见来帮助我们解决问题的。但，切记，别成了他们的木偶，因为终究人生还是自己的！切记！切记！最后想告诉大家，其实自己才是人生最佳的主人！

*Picture taken from 光华同学会

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“You never try you never know” 这句话在现今的社会里，已成为了很多人的座右铭。人们时不时都会把这句话挂在嘴边。很多事情都说 “You never try you never know”。对。这句话很有意思，也很有作用。当你不确定一件事情的时候，当你不知所措的时候，当你拿不定主意的时候，你可以都用上它。当然，当你想找个借口的时候，你也是可以把它派上用场的，这里我想特别提的就是，感情。

在感情的世界里，任何事情都可以发生。很多时候，当一个人不知道该如何做一项决定时，他们常常都会想起了这么一句话 “You never try you never know”。所以可以相信，在这世界上，真的有人会因为这么一句话而走在一起了。如果结果是好的话，当然就是拍了拖，然后结婚生子，一起过着幸福美满的生活咯。但，如果结果并不是我们想象的那样呢？那问题就出现了。

在感情世界里，很多人常常以为自己可以改变自己，甚至改变对方。在这里，改变自己就是说，让自己对对方有感觉，从欣赏到喜欢，从喜欢到爱，藉着跟对方在一起的时间，慢慢来培养彼此的感情。这没有所谓的对与错，因为那也是感情世界里的其中一个过程。但，如果万一有一天，当你发现你根本就无法真正地投入在这一个感情里面，你无法真正地跟对方培养出一段感情，甚至你开始怀疑自己对对方的感觉的时候，你会怎么做呢？

很多时候，他们都会考虑到一点，“既然在一起那么久时间了，怎么说都有感情了，如果现在放手，会不会有点可惜呢？” 。我想说的是，如果那个感情不是因为爱的话，那何苦再继续下去呢？这样的话，对自己，对对方，都不是一件很好的事，更别说那是公平的，特别对对方更是很不公平的。就算今天让你们都安然无恙的度过了这一关，难保这一个问题不会再日后又出现的。你能给保证说不会再有那样的问题吗？

很多人往往都忘了在 “You never try you never know” 这句话的后面，其实还有这么一句话的 “Once you tried, if it’s not suitable, just let go”。当你所做的一切都已尽力了，而还是觉得不适合的话，其实你心里应该很明白你其实真正要的是什么了。别太自私，当你真的发觉尝试了后还是不适合的话，就应该放手了。牢牢的套着对方，其实对对方是很不公平的。这样也对大家没好处的。更别说为了怕自己做错决定，或是怕自己以后会后悔，怕日后会失去一切，一无所有，而牢牢的抓着对方的手，那真的是很自私的行为了。因为每个人都有绝对的权利去追求自己的幸福的，没有人可以无赖的去阻止或拖延别人去寻找属于他们自己的幸福的。

当然，在感情的世界里，两个人在一起就应该互相谅解，互相迁就，互相尊重，互相爱护，互相关心，互相疼爱，还有很多很多的互相。。。最重要的是，两个人在一起千万不要试着改变对方，因为久而久之，对方就会失去自我了。当对方失去自我的时候，很多问题就会接踵而来了。而且，当初你欣赏，喜欢，甚至爱对方，也是因为对方真实的自己啊，不是吗？学着去接受对方的一切吧。愿所有天下有情人终成眷属。。。努力去追求属于自己的幸福吧！别因为别人的三言两语就抹杀了自己的幸福和未来！因为唯有自己才是最了解自己的人！

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In my previous post, we talked about why a man needs a wife. As I promised, this time I’m going to share why a woman needs a husband. We are going to talk about why a woman needs a husband in her life, of course that’s not including those who are going to stay single for the rest of their life.

Have you all ever come across this question in your mind? Have you ever think about it? Well, I got a chance to hear some reasons why given by some people and I found this one is quite interesting to me.

H : Housing (Provide a house for you, that’s called a home)

U : Understanding (Knowing and understanding you well)

S : Sharing (Willing to share everything with you)

B : Buying (Willing to buy anything for you)

A : And

N : Never

D : Demanding (That’s the most important thing to you, right?)

So, what do you think about it? If you’ve got some words of your own, feel free to share them in the comments section. Thank you.

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Have you all ever come across this question in your mind? Have you ever think about why a man needs a wife?

I heard some people said that wife is a very precious and important person to a man. I’m sure most of you would agree this statement, right? However, what are the reasons that you would give me to support this statement?

Well, here is something that I found quite interesting to me.

W : Washing (Wife helps man to wash their clothes and dishes)

I : Ironing (Wife helps man to iron their clothes)

F : Food (Wife prepares food for man. Breakfast, lunch, dinner…)

E : Entertainment (Wife entertains man. Make him laugh…)

So, ladies and gentlemen, what do you think about it? Kindly share what you think about it here. Thank you and stay tuned for my next post about husband.

*Picture taken from Google*

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When is the suitable time to start a new relationship after breaking up with your ex-girlfriend? Well, this question is always running on my mind since I broke up with my first love. Today, I’m thinking about the same question again and I’m gonna discuss about it with you all.

Usually (or normally), when something ‘big’ happen in your life, you will face different emotions – sadness, happiness, anger, joy, tension, relief, hopelessness, upset, disappoint, boredom and so on and on… (you name it). And of course, the end of a relationship will also lead you to the same situation. Different emotions that you have drive you to the different reactions, some say positive and some say negative too.

So, what do you think is the suitable time to start a new relationship after breaking up someone? Irrespective of who broke up with who, the end of a relationship is usually related with some amount of hurt deep inside our heart and soul. When the situation comes to this way, is it suitable for us to start a new relationship right after the end of past relationship? If not, when do you think is the suitable time?

Some people say, when something like this happened to you, your emotionally thinking will affect your sense of judgment. You will probably hardly to see things clear, especially new person in front of you (perhaps we can say target or choice). You will probably see the person that you meet right after the break up as being the better option than your ex-girlfriend or ex-boyfriend. And that’s happen too even they are not your Mr. Right or Miss Right.

Besides, the feelings of loneliness will also lead you or force you to start dating right away after the break up. Some people really can’t stand the feelings of loneliness. They had got used to be accompanied and not to be alone. But is it okay with that? I think you should give yourself adequate time to heal from the hurts of your past relationship. Rushing things like this will only bring you into more troubles in the future. Once the torrents of emotions flowing through your mind has calmed down, then you can objectively decide on a new person to go out with. Try to think about it. I will suggest you to think properly first before taking any further action. Think before you act!

After what we have above, what conclusion can you make? What’s your opinion or suggestion about it? I hope I can see something from you all. Give me some comments and we can further discuss about it. Who knows, maybe you can help me in my next posts.

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